Your sexuality is not just who you want to sleep with.

It’s how you speak to your body. How you breathe when no one’s watching. How you respond to touch - yours or another’s.

It’s whether you clench or open when someone says “pleasure.” Whether your “no” feels safe. Whether your “yes” feels free.

It’s the relationship you’ve built with your desire, and whether that relationship feels like a homecoming or a battleground.

This isn’t about whether you’re having sex or how often. This is about how you feel when you’re alone in your skin.

So let’s ask the question most sex ed classes never dared:

How healthy is your relationship with your sexuality?

BEGIN HERE: THE SELF-ASSESSMENT NO ONE EVER GAVE YOU

Before the world told you what sex should be, you had instincts. A body. A pulse. An erotic imagination all your own.

But depending on where you were raised, what religion you were born into, or what trauma you lived through - those instincts may have been silenced, distorted, or punished.

Let’s take a sacred pause to check in. No shame. No judgment. Just curiosity.

Ask yourself:

• Do I feel connected to my sexual self, or do I mostly ignore or avoid it?

• Can I say “no” without guilt? Can I say “yes” without fear?

• Do I feel safe exploring desire - solo or with a partner?

• When I hear the word pleasure, do I tense or soften?

• Was I ever taught that my sexuality was mine to shape?

If these questions feel confronting, you're not alone. Most of us never received a blueprint. What we got instead was silence, shame, fear - or porn.

But now? We get to unlearn.

WHY THIS MATTERS MORE THAN YOU THINK

Your relationship with your sexuality is not a side story - it’s central to your emotional, mental, spiritual, and even political well-being.

When your sexuality is healthy, you…

✔ Know what turns you on and what turns you off

✔ Communicate boundaries and desires clearly

✔ Feel comfortable being curious without shame

✔ See your body as a place of power - not punishment

✔ Can experience intimacy as liberation, not obligation

But when your sexuality is wounded or repressed, it can show up as…

✘ Sexual anxiety or numbness

✘ Shame during or after intimacy

✘ Disconnect between body and desire

✘ Confusion between attention and affection

✘ Fear of being “too much” or “not enough”

✘ Avoidance of self-pleasure or exploration

This isn’t personal failure - it’s cultural conditioning. And different cultures script our sexuality very, very differently.

CULTURE, SHAME & THE GLOBAL SEXUALITY MIRROR

Let’s widen the lens.

In places like the Netherlands or Sweden, sexuality is treated as natural, holistic, and even joyful. Kids learn about pleasure, consent, and gender diversity as early as age 5. Result? Lower teen pregnancy, healthier relationships, and higher body confidence.

In contrast, the United States remains fractured. Only 22 states require sex ed at all - and many still teach abstinence-only education, riddled with shame and misinformation. Students often graduate knowing more about STDs than intimacy. No wonder performance anxiety is epidemic.

Meanwhile in Australia, where COSMIC SENSATION was born, sex-ed is improving - but still uneven. Some states include LGBTQ+ content, consent education, and pleasure-focused learning. Others… still treat sex like a warning sign instead of a sacred experience.

And in parts of Asia, Africa, and the Middle East - especially where Islamic law or conservative social codes dominate - sexuality is often wrapped in taboo. Premarital sex is criminalized. Queerness is demonized. Masturbation is rarely discussed. Even talking about menstruation can be forbidden. Many readers from these backgrounds grew up not only misinformed, but afraid - of their own arousal, their own bodies, and the consequences of curiosity.

If that’s you?

You deserve to know: there is nothing wrong with you.

You were simply raised in a system that feared what it couldn’t control.

And now - you get to unlearn the fear and reclaim the flame.

REBUILDING TRUST WITH YOUR SEXUAL SELF

Healing your relationship with your sexuality isn’t about having more sex. It’s about having more choice. More awareness. More freedom to feel - on your terms.

Here’s how to begin:

1. Unlearn to Remember

Start by asking: What did I learn about sex, love, and pleasure? Was I taught to fear my own body? To perform instead of feel? Write it out. Name it. Then slowly, lovingly, let go of what no longer serves.

2. Pleasure Without Pressure

Create space to explore pleasure - not as performance, but as presence. Take a bath. Touch your skin slowly. Breathe into your belly. Ask: What does my body want today? Let curiosity lead the way.

3. Create Your Own Sex Ed Curriculum

Explore resources that celebrate your truth:

• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (brain-body connection)

• Healing Sex by Staci Haines (trauma-informed pleasure)

• @sexpositive_families, @ericasmith.sex.ed on Instagram

• TED Talks by Al Vernacchio, Cindy Gallop, and others

This is education through liberation.

4. Practice Erotic Mindfulness

Try staying present during arousal. Whether alone or with a partner, pay attention to sensation - not fantasy. This deepens self-awareness and heals dissociation. Mindful touch is revolutionary.

5. Break the Silence with Someone Safe

Find someone - friend, therapist, coach - who can witness your sexual story without shame. Letting yourself be seen, even just once, can dissolve years of repression.

COSMIC REFLECTIONS: A JOURNAL CHECK-IN

Here’s a little love note to self, disguised as a self-assessment. Fill in the blanks honestly.

• I was taught that sex was ____________

• My biggest fear around intimacy is ____________

• What I desire most in sex is ____________

• What I want to feel about my sexuality is ____________

• One way I can move closer to that feeling is ____________

If answering these brings up emotion, good. You’re not doing it wrong - you’re getting real. And getting real is how we get free.

RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SEXUALITY IS NOT A LUXURY - IT’S A LENS

This isn’t just about sex.

It’s about how you inhabit your body. How you navigate power, vulnerability, and joy. How you recognize yourself - not as an object, but as a cosmos.

When we heal our relationship with sexuality, we don’t just have better orgasms.

We speak more boldly. We love more consciously. We teach the next generation how to honor themselves with tenderness and truth.

This is what COSMIC SENSATION is here for.

To remind you that your pleasure is not a sin - it’s a signal.

That your desire is not dangerous - it’s divine.

That your body isn’t a battlefield - it’s a temple.

A FINAL WHISPER FROM COSMIC SENSATION…

You deserve to feel at home in your own sensuality.

You deserve tools - not taboos. Truth - not threats.

And when the sensual treasures we’ve been crafting behind the veil begin to arrive (shh, you’ll know when the time is right)... you’ll already have the inner landscape ready to receive them.

Because healing your relationship with your sexuality isn’t a destination.

It’s an unfolding.

A slow, sovereign, sacred yes.

COSMIC SENSATION For the miseducated. For the reawakened.For the ones learning to fall in love with themselves again - through the portal of pleasure, honesty, and soul-safety.

Your sexual story is yours to write.

So why not make it erotic, empowered, and endlessly true?