You were never broken.

But the system wanted you to believe that.

Not just in the way it taught you to fear your body. But in the way, it didn’t teach you how to love it.

Sex education - if you even received it - was rarely about pleasure. Rarely about safety that felt good. Rarely about consent as liberation, or self-touch as sacred, or queerness as divine, or trauma as something you could move through.

Most of us grew up with silence where there should have been softness. With shame where there should have been science. With fear where there should have been freedom.

And now?

We’re unlearning. Rewilding. Reclaiming.

This is not just a critique of a broken system. This is a sensual revolution. And it starts here - with your body, your truth, and the radical remembrance that you were never meant to live disconnected from your desire.

Let's dive into how sex education failed us.

HOW SEX-EDUCATION FAILED US: WHERE WE GOT LOST

Let’s be honest. Most sex education around the world wasn’t about sexuality.

It was about control.

From abstinence-only mandates in the United States to purity pledges across religious institutions… from the silence of Indian classrooms to the heteronormative scripts in Australian health classes… from the criminalisation of LGBTQ+ relationships in many African nations to outdated gender roles taught in parts of Asia and the Middle East - sex-ed hasn’t just missed the mark. It’s actively harmed generations.

Common failures include:

✔ Abstinence-only education (particularly in the U.S. Bible Belt, parts of Africa, Latin America, and conservative Asia)

✔ Shame-based approaches to menstruation and masturbation

✔ Lack of queer-inclusive frameworks

✔ Framing sex as solely for reproduction or male pleasure

✔ Ignoring trauma-informed consent practices

✔ Banning or restricting access to pleasure-based learning materials

✔ Presenting disability and sexuality as mutually exclusive

✔ Framing sex workers and kink communities as immoral or dangerous

Historical context matters. Sex-ed emerged largely in the 20th century through a lens of public health - not empowerment. Designed to prevent disease and pregnancy, it was never meant to awaken sensual intelligence. And what’s worse? In many places, it still isn’t.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE TEACH THROUGH SHAME?

When we teach that sex is dangerous, sinful, or dirty…

We raise generations who:

✘ Don’t know how to say “no”

✘ Don’t know how to say “yes”

✘ Don’t know what they want - only what they’re afraid of

✘ Can’t recognise coercion because it was never named

✘ Experience their first touch not with reverence - but confusion

✘ Mistake affection for attention

✘ Stay silent when they’re violated

✘ Perform instead of participate

✘ Internalise trauma as normal

A lack of true sex education doesn’t create safety - it creates shame. It creates a split. One that fractures your body from your voice. Your desire from your dignity. Your instinct is from your intuition.

And this fracture?

It doesn’t just hurt individuals. It holds back entire cultures.

A CULTURE WITHOUT SENSUAL LITERACY IS A CULTURE STUCK IN ADOLESCENCE

Let’s zoom out.

When sex-ed fails, we don’t just get adults who don’t know where the clitoris is (although, yes, that too). We get:

✘ Marriages built on misunderstanding

✘ Policies that punish pleasure

✘ Courts that mishandle rape trials

✘ Healthcare that neglects trauma survivors

✘ A culture that fetishizes youth and punishes aging bodies

✘ Parents afraid to talk to their children

✘ Educators with no tools to support the next generation

✘ Generations that confuse abuse for desire

If you want to know how mature a society is, don’t look at its GDP - look at its sex-ed curriculum.

Pleasure literacy is emotional literacy. It’s where empathy begins. Where boundaries are taught. Where power becomes conscious, not violent.

And without it?

We remain stuck - repeating wounds we didn’t ask for, and passing them down like inheritance.

FROM SYSTEMIC HARM TO PERSONAL HEALING: HOW TO BEGIN RECLAIMING YOUR SEXUAL SELF

The good news?

You don’t need a government-approved syllabus to begin healing.

You don’t need a perfect partner. Or a trauma-free past. Or a fully-mapped-out fantasy life.

You just need a yes.

A yes to begin. A yes to feel. A yes to come back into your body - at your own rhythm, in your own sacred way.

Here’s how.

1. UNLEARN TO REMEMBER

Start by asking: What was I taught about sex? Who taught it? What was missing?

Then ask: What do I believe now? What no longer fits? What still hurts? What wants to emerge?

This is healing. Not through perfection. But through presence.

2. BEGIN A SELF-PLEASURE PRACTICE

Not for orgasm. Not for performance.

But for reconnection.

Light a candle. Close your eyes. Ask your body: Where do you want to be touched today? Where feels numb? What wants awakening?

Treat your own hands like reverent visitors. Pleasure is how you meet yourself again.

3. CREATE A NEW INTERNAL SEX-ED CURRICULUM

One that’s juicy. Truthful. Inclusive.

Explore resources like:

✔ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

✔ Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg (for kids & parents)

✔ Healing Sex by Staci Haines (trauma-informed)

✔ The Consent Wizardry Workbook by Mia Schachter

✔ TED Talks by Cindy Gallop, Al Vernacchio, or Adi Jaffe

✔ Instagram/YouTube creators like @somaticwitch, @ericasmith.sex.ed, @sexpositive_families

Let your curiosity reeducate you. Let joy lead.

4. MAKE HEALING SENSUAL, NOT CLINICAL

This isn’t a homework assignment.

It’s a seduction of the self.

Dance slowly. Speak your fantasies aloud. Journal with erotic ink. Paint your fear. Write your first sexual memory and let it rewrite itself in your own language.

Your body isn’t a lesson. It’s a love story.

5. DON’T GO ALONE - FIND COMMUNITY

Healing is a communal act.

Find workshops, online circles, trauma-informed therapists, peer educators, or queer/kink spaces that feel safe.

Create a new culture inside your own life. One that is tender. Brave. Wild. And consensual.

WHAT EDUCATORS, PARENTS, & FUTURE LOVERS NEED TO KNOW

If you work with youth - or one day hope to raise them - start now.

You don’t have to be a sex expert. You just have to be emotionally safe.

✨ Name body parts correctly.✨ Talk about boundaries as sacred, not awkward.✨ Normalise saying “no” and receiving “no.”✨ Teach that pleasure isn’t shameful - it’s wisdom.✨

Show, through your example, that intimacy and respect can co-exist.

Because we don’t just teach kids how to avoid harm. We teach them what love feels like.

And that changes the world.

COSMIC SENSATION: WHERE RE-EDUCATION IS EROTIC

At COSMIC SENSATION, we believe that sexual healing is not just for survivors.

It’s for everyone who’s ever been confused, silenced, touched without reverence, or denied the full expression of their erotic self.

It’s for every parent too shy to answer a question.

Every teen left to learn through porn.

Every adult unsure if they’re “normal.”

Every neurodivergent lover who needs a new language.

Every queer, disabled, kinky, tender human who has been told they were “too much” or “not enough.”

This space is for you.

We don’t just offer information. We offer an invitation.

To return to your body. To rebuild your compass. To feel without fear.

And when our sensual tools arrive on the horizon… know that they are being crafted with this exact energy in mind: for the most sacred, most joyful, most sovereign expression of you.

YOU WERE NEVER TOO LATE TO LEARN

There is no age limit on pleasure. No expiry on healing. No shame in starting over.

The school failed you. The system silenced you. But your body?

Your body still remembers.

So learn now.

Not from fear. But from love.

Not from punishment. But from curiosity.

Not for anyone else.

But for the version of you who always knew there was more.

That your desire was not dangerous.

That your pleasure was power.

That your body could be a home again.

And that maybe - just maybe - sexuality was never meant to be hidden.

It was meant to be holy.

COSMIC SENSATION

For the miseducated. For the reawakening. For the future lovers, parents, and educators, unlearning the shame and rewriting the story.

Because when we teach with love, we touch the world.

And when we touch with consent, we heal it.